Morning III

Now, I believe what woman activist said: talking about equality is useless when the developed and undeveloped people meet. It doesn't mean that the ideas of Kartini is useless. Now it's important, it's irreplaceable. The problem is how to keep the meaning well-understanding and well-parcticed now. Yes, it's about the actor. The developed people means the people aware how important equalities are: respect, non-discriminative, zero tolerance for voilence, freedom, and so on and they practice it when keep contact with others. The undeveloped people is the contrary. May they know about the ideas, can memorize Kartini's biography well, study about feminism in college--but non sens: they ignore it. I talk about the professor. He obtain his Ph.D from one of top ten university abroad. But the problem is himself. He discussed with us (the student) about religion and sociology. He explained us about the definition, theories, and methods--the focus is method. I just shaked my head due to the way he chooses to do introductory session. He asked me to be the last person who introduced theirself and ask my mobile number as joking--I the only one woman in the class. I show my objection but it's continue--making woman to be the object of study--and my mates loves it, I suppose. Then I said to mates; please think first before you argue on some issues. I said like that when they did the simlar statement: blaming the woman. Then other mate said: the professor it's so funny, it's common. He said like that because the proffessor involve with the training and my mate is the participant. But, I said, there many jokes you can make, without blaming woman. I did this when the professor out of class for a while. I can't count "the jokes" or the samples talk with us--I choose to forget it--but I want to tell one of them. He said, how is your opinion when I hug this women (read; me)? He said: I want, very much but I can't because the norm, the sharia prohibit it. Almost the class laugh. It's hurts. It's annoying. It's harrasment....Do I doing exxageration? I don't think so. I keep silent. I forgive up for giving warning. Actually, I said to the professor, before this joke is released, that the class is academic environment, what he did is a kind of harrasment--but I don't know what the respons is. The class was so rush, I can't explain my argument well. I just hope somebody say something to him. But no one. I stop pay attention to the class, the mates, an the professor, then. I get frustated for getting bad treatment. Just look the books, look the down. And professor said, without empathiness, don't be angry, Mbak. What? How come? I just wanna be angry--much. To be honest, I can't believe what he did in academic aspect and treat the student today. My friend said that he suggest the topic of his final paper to be neutral, objective. But, with the student in class, he was being subjective person--he defines everything based on his opininon, not feminist opinion, especially on something so-called harrasment. Contractditio interminis. He shaked our hand, finally, before the class closing and ask apoligies for everything make us hurted--I do and I smiled. But, for me, it's healing nothing. Just ceremonial stuff. Dunno what cross in his mind when I looked him and keep smiling. I didn't forgive him yet. I keep my dissapointment my self, then told it in lunch time with my (woman) mate: she support me much. She get the same treatment in the same day, but from the mates--his professor is clear and firm about the ideas of equality. She told me that her (man) mate avoid her when he shared the paper. What kind of this treatment? Just for your information, the man, and almost the class, is well-educated people in religious issues. They know well our prophet PBUH respect woman much. It's hurted in usual days--and it's very hurted in Kartini's day. Well, finally, I have to say: so many undeveloped people around us. Please, never associated this term released by New Order regime--i dislike it and you too, I think. It's about the people aware and practice the equality. And, discussing this term didn't meant I'm the typical of developed person. I just can't stop to criticize the attitude of undeveloped people whoever he/she is that treat everybody badly because they are women. Last but not least, it's difficult to implement the ideas of Ibu Kartini. In the past, I believe that education will be the best way for eradicating the oppression of woman. It's not true--no matter what we've done with our education--we are still under-pressed by patriarchal rules. The level of education, I quote my friend statement, just making us know about the oppression better. How to eradicate the opression is other bussines. It's happen when the developed-women and developed-men meet. I do believe. Unforgettable Kartini's Day 21th April 2011 20.19 WIB